It can come as a complete shock to learn that your spouse is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. Your first reaction will probably be to wonder why she didn’t tell you about it a long time ago. But what you need to understand is how personal, private, and petrifying this secret is to a survivor.
It happened to us, and it may have happened to you. I know that it hurts, but please hear this: you do not have to hurt alone. Your marriage will make it through the pain of this miscarriage. Your spouse is with you. It is imperative that you recognize the weight and necessity of choosing to have naked conversations through this messy circumstance.
When it comes to communication, technology and social media has undergone some revolutionary innovations and developments that make sure you are always connected with your loved ones, anywhere and anytime. There are several different ways you can use technology to strengthen your bond with your better half, and make sure they know you are thinking about them.
Don’t let fear keep you from thinking clearly. You won’t be able to hear when God is telling you to trust Him. When you give your fear to God you’ll be able to appreciate your blessings and live your life the way He intended.
Literally speaking, I live with a handyman. So things do get fixed more than they used to. And living with my best friend has been of the most meaningful gifts I’ve known. But there are just some things he can’t, and our marriage can’t, fix.